Splendor On the Importance of Being Unimportant

There are two kinds of people in this world: Those that think there are two kinds of people in the world and those that don't.

There are two kinds of people in the world: Generalists and Specialists.

There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who make things complicated, and those who make things simple.

There are two kinds of bloggers in the world: Those who would write the statement “there are two kinds of bloggers” and those who would Google the phrase first, to see just how many people have already used that phrase.

“There are two kinds of people in the world, those with loaded guns, and those who dig. You dig.” - Clint Eastwood, 1966, “The Good, The Bad and The Ugly” (Il Buono, il Brutto, il Cattivo)

There are two types of vessels on the sea - submarines and targets.

“There are two kinds of people in the world – those who walk into a room and say, ‘There you are!’ – and those who say, ‘Here I am!’ ” - Abigail Van Buren

“There are basically two types of people. People who accomplish things, and people who claim to have accomplished things. The first group is less crowded.” – Mark Twain

Mark Twain was the master of aphorisms, especially those with dualistic structures — quite appropriate given his pen name (which was actually based on a nautical term, but hey, it’s a nice coincidence). Hence he gets extra coverage on this blog.

“There are two types of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars.” -Mark Twain

“There are two kinds of fools. One says, ‘This is old, therefore it is good.” The other says, ‘This is new, therefore it is better.’ Let us be thankful for the fools. But for them, the rest of us could not succeed.” - Mark Twain

“There are two times in a man’s life when he should not speculate: when he can’t afford it, and when he can.” - Mark Twain

There are two kinds of poets: the ones who tell the stories, and the ones about whom the stories get told.
“For my grandfather, there were two kinds of people in the world: Those who agreed with him, and those who hadn’t yet agreed with him.” - B. Spira

There are 10 kinds of people in the world: Those who understand binary and those who don’t.

“There are two kinds of people in the world: the Givers and the Takers. The difference between the two is that the Takers eat well, and the Givers sleep well at night.” - Joy Mills

There are two kinds of people in the world: Pessimists and Optimists.

Related Meme: ”An Optimist Sees the Glass as Half-Full, A Pessimist Sees the World as Half-Empty.” I once met a person who always saw the glass as completely full, even though it wasn’t. On the flipside, I also knew a person who saw the glass as half-empty, dirty, filled with germs, possibly made from contaminated lead glass from China, etc. etc.. I’ve also heard this one: ”The Engineer sees the Glass as Twice As Big As It Needs to Be.” The way I see it: “The entrepreneur sees the glass as undervalued by half its potential.”

There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who follow the rules and those who make the rules.
“There are two ways of meeting difficulties: You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself to meet them.” – Phyllis Bottome

“The world is divided into two types of people: those who love to talk, and those who hate to listen.” - James Thorpe

There are two kinds of people in the world: Players and Haters.

“Capitalism is a pimp-hoe system. You are either a pimp, or you are a hoe.”- KRS-ONE

There are two kinds of people in the world: Me and You.

“Mankind is divided into two great classes: hosts and guests.” - Max Beerbohm, Hosts and Guests

“There are two kinds of people who never amount to much: those who cannot do what they are told, and those who can do nothing else.” - Cyrus Curtis, 1850 – 1933

“There are two kinds of people in this world, Chris. There are bullies and there are nerds. ..and there are hot Asian chicks.” - Peter Griffin, Family Guy

There are three kinds of people in the world: Those who know math and those who don’t.
“When it comes to the future, there are three kinds of people: those who let it happen, those who make it happen, and those who wonder what the fuck happened.” - John M. Richardson, Jr

“There are three classes of intellects: one which comprehends by itself; another which appreciates what others comprehend; and a third which neither comprehends by itself nor by the showing of others; the first is the most excellent, the second is good, the third is useless.” - Niccolo Machiavelli, The Prince, 1532 AD

“There are, broadly speaking, two kinds of workers in the world, the people who do all the work, and the people who think they do all the work. The latter class is generally the busiest, the former never have time to be busy.” - Stella Benson

“There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics.” – Walter Bagehot

“There are two kinds of statistics: the kind you look up, and the kind you make up.” - Rex Stout

There are two kinds of people in the world…
Those who make your life easier — and those who make it harder.
Those whose presence helps you perform better — and those whose presence makes you do worse.
Those concerned about doing the work — and those concerned about getting the credit.
Those who leave you feeling up — and those who leave you feeling down.
Those who simplify — and those who complicate.
Those who listen when others are talking — and those who wait when others are talking.
Those who give — and those who take.
Those who last — and those who fade.
Which are you?

A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason.” - J.P. Morgan

There are two kinds of light – the glow that illuminates, and the glare that obscures.”
- James Thurber

“There are two great energies of change in human affairs: fear and aspiration.”
- Peter Senge, The Fifth Discipline

”All books are divisible into two classes: the books of the hour, and the books of all time.”-John Ruslin, Of Kings’ Treasuries, 1865

“There are in fact two things, science and opinion; the former begets knowledge, the latter ignorance.”
- Hippocrates

“There are two ways to slide easily through life: to believe everything or to doubt everything; both ways save us from thinking.”
- Alfred Korzybyski

My theory is that when it comes to important subjects, there’s only two ways a person can answer. For example, there’s two kinds of people in this world, Elvis people and Beatles people. Now Beatles people can like Elvis. And Elvis people can like the Beatles. But nobody likes them both equally.
Somewhere you have to make a choice. And that choice tells me who you are.
There are two kinds of people: those who like me..& those who can go to hell!
There are two kinds of people: those who want money and those who don’t know what they want
There are two kinds of people in the world, those that hear bad news and want to run away and those that dig their feet in and want to fight.”

So why am I writing about this? Well, because there are important people in this world and unimportant people in this world. But how do you know which one you fall into? Well, my friend apparently thinks I am unimportant. I was easily forgotten in 3 days, just like that. THAT easy!!! Just like there are two types of people in this world, ones that entertain and ones that observe. There are two types of guys in this world: onces that can hang with me and the ones who are scared. Fear of Abandonment, Get Empowered !!!!!At its core, fear of abandonment is powerlessness.
All fears come down to a lack of power. So it follows that empowerment is needed.
A lot of different things bring empowerment. Understanding what is happening...
And what can be done Is empowering.When you understand your fear, you understand it is like a ghost. But...before we bring courage (empowerment) to your abandonment issues, a word about dis-empowerment. I just read the top result on Google for “fear of abandonment”. It is sadly typical – totally dis-empowering. The article explains "that abandonment issues can be treated with therapy as long as the individual is willing to use the therapist as a pillar to lean against while learning to be self sufficient." And yet another prominent "expert" article said that people cannot get over these issues on their own.

This kind of information is a disservice. It promotes the idea that if you have fear of abandonment, you are "ill" and incapable of dealing with emotional stress.
It is telling you to believe in the same powerlessness that supports abandonment issues in the first place. 

Is there any way to heal?
Of course – simple principles of brain science bring understanding, empowerment, and healing...and I provide some simple steps for you to take toward healing below.

Will that also help with depression?
Of course – fear is emotional stress and emotional stress is linked to depression.

How does courage (empowerment) fit in?

Learning the origins and behaviors of your fears helps you understand what kind of courage you need.

Understanding what kind of courage you need shows you what kind of positive action to take. 

Positive action leads to acceptance. 

Acceptance leads to courage.

Courage leads to growth and strength. 
Courageous, accepting, positive people who embrace growth
are not afraid of ghosts. Voila’! (say: "Wa La"!)

When fear of abandonment is called an illness, it only makes things worse. A LOT worse.

Lest we forget: Relationships are natural -- unhealthy (or absent) relationships are unnatural. Folks, as humans our brains and nervous systems are hard-wired to need relationships! This is actually a healthy, good need. These shifts change you from the inside out and ripple out into your life and relationships. These shifts change you:

who you attract - and how you act - and how you feel. GO SEE YOUR THERAPIST!!!!!   This blog is NOT for any one particular person in my life, except the one who forgot about me and all the good times we shared and ONLY just that thought, that saddness that it can all be thrown away without a better explanation. A 10 second "Hey, I'm fine, your in my thoughts but can't talk right now, still need a couple days" But NOPE, NOTHING!!!!! I offer hope and support to no response. I really, really REALLY am Unimportant. This is the Splendor of the Importance of Being Unimportant. I know a lot of you felt this way before.
So sad.... goodnight and Ambien is kicking in....