Reason: People need to start making the connection between action and reaction! Wanting something and getting something are connected only by action. Sad but true, We are programmed by our biology toward the wanting only the new or the new improved. We are also programmed with great curiosity. And, in addition to all these reasons for always wanting something else, we are programmed, socially, to never be satisfied with what we have. These several reasons for always wanting to have, be, or do more, can drive us to bigger and better things, but they also have a tendency to take control of our lives. There is always going to be someone that sees what others have and decides that they want it no matter how far out of their reach that it may be. We seem to be trained at an early age to identify what we can't afford and decide we must have it regardless of what we have to do to get it.
Here's the old saying: well as they say life is a paradox
what you want , you don't get
what you get, you don't enjoy
what you enjoy is not permanent
what is permanent is boring but
no matter what...that's life what you want , you don't get
what you get, you don't enjoy
what you enjoy is not permanent
what is permanent is boring but
Ironic yet truly worth living for...
EXAMPLE: My soon to be ex saw me naked last night after walking in on me after taking a shower. A couple of weeks ago, he wanted NOTHING to do with me, or even to help me get a towel I forgotten, sending in my son and daughter to assist me. Last night, he comments "Wow, you have a beautiful body, I really am missing that body right now. I can't believe I gave up on you. It makes me sad knowing someone else will be enjoying your body."
RESPONSE: I thought this is such a passive aggressive statement and I know he is asking for a booty call. I simple said that "when I needed to be seen by you, you made me feel invisible. When I was sick and gained weight, you turned a blind eye to me and ignored me. But when I look good you all of a sudden want me. It don't work that way. I feel nothing but a platonic friendship for you and that is the way I will always feel. I am sorry. I've not been treated right in this marriage and I can't go down this road again. I made my decision last week. "
HIS RESPONSE: "I know, but all of a sudden you are more attractive to me than ever before." He walked away and it was awkward the rest of the night, I slept on the couch thinking about the last 16 years of marriage and how, YES, I did make the right decision, because 6 years ago, I took him back after starting the divorce and it was good for a few months and then it got worse than before. So the saying goes " Screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me" This ship has sailed off.
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